Parents often think that they've captured something small and vulnerable, but the parents I've profiled here have been captured, locked up with their children's madness or genius or deformity, and the quest is never to lose compassion. When we love them, we achieve above all else the rapture of privileging what exists over what we have merely imagined.Ī follower of the Dalai Lama who had been imprisoned by the Chinese for decades was asked if he had ever been afraid in jail, and he said his fear was that he would lose compassion for his captors. They are receptacles for rage and joy-even for salvation. Children with horizontal identities alter your self painfully they also illuminate it. These parents have, by and large, chosen to love their children, and many of them have chosen to value their own lives, even though they carry what much of the world considers an intolerable burden. But we retain the startling evolutionary imperative for the fact of ourselves, and with that splinter of grandiosity we redeem our flaws. Most of us would like to be more successful or more beautiful or wealthier, and most people endure episodes of low self-esteem or even self-hatred. It is not simply that we decide on the behaviors that construct our experience when given our druthers, we elect to be ourselves. If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes-and we become attached to the heroic strain in our personal history. When I was younger, not being accepted made me enraged, but now, I am not inclined to dismantle my history. “I wish I'd been accepted sooner and better. Then our life becomes meaningful and more peaceful-happier.” For our life to be of value, I think we must develop basic good human qualities-warmth, kindness, compassion. We weren't born with the purpose of causing trouble, harming others. The purpose of our life needs to be positive. So, let us reflect what is truly of value in life, what gives meaning to our lives, and set our priorities on the basis of that. I think that is the whole basis of my philosophy. If not, at least refrain from harming them. I believe that the proper utilization of time is this: if you can, serve other people, other sentient beings. So, we need to make the best use of our time. But we are working for that purely on the basis of hope. There is no guarantee that tomorrow at this time we will be here. Our day-to-day existence is very much alive with hope, although there is no guarantee of our future. While we have this body, and especially this amazing human brain, I think every minute is something precious. Proper utilization of time is so important. And it makes me wonder if we've utilized our time properly or not. “Sometimes when I meet old friends, it reminds me how quickly time passes.
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